tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831346878941295476.post7728256773965220652..comments2023-05-26T05:43:13.834-07:00Comments on Throwing Starfish: I dream of Jerkwad aka my exPie Makerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13885292353187243507noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831346878941295476.post-53218485531465081632009-12-22T12:12:45.903-08:002009-12-22T12:12:45.903-08:00YES. You are so very right Mama Edge! Great advice...YES. You are so very right Mama Edge! Great advice. I can do it and I will do it! <br />You're right about the other suckers er friends too, He's got one hook line and sinker and I found out SHE actually paid for this little visit of his. Interesting...more and more I think we are traveling a very similar path. I'm so glad I found you in the blogosphere sister from another mister!Pie Makerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13885292353187243507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2831346878941295476.post-48919113905359239572009-12-21T13:19:12.109-08:002009-12-21T13:19:12.109-08:00I am my ex's "only friend" (his word...I am my ex's "only friend" (his words, not mine), and I find it's essential to be very firm (read: hard-assed) about my boundaries with him. It's exhausting to have to act in a way that feels so cold and cruel. I remind myself that it's actually the kindest thing I can do. Being very concrete means there's no confusion about what I am/am not willing to offer. It takes away that enabling (intentional or not) that prevents him from seeking other suckers (er, I mean <i>friends</i>) to be in his life.<br /><br />Stay strong for yourself. Good for you, writing it down. Yes, you may have to read this post over and over, and it's not just all right: It's awesome!mama edgehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16434016248126809607noreply@blogger.com